Death and Living

Having been involved in several memorials following a death in the family, I became curious about how different people respond to the loss of someone close. I noticed that those who were more religious seem to have a more difficult time dealing with the loss than the less devout. This was curious since I assumed that a christian who believed in an after life would find it easier to deal with the loss expecting to be reunited with the departed in the near future. For a christian, death is just a different stage of life rather than a definite end as it would be for an atheist.

One observation that may explain the difference is that it appears that chrisitans may have a crisis of faith caused by the death of someone close at a time when their faith would be expected to comfort them. It was common to hear christians question why such a good person was taken now rather than later or why the departed was put through such a painful experience. Christians believe that death and living are guided by some master plan defined by their faith so the death was planned and required by their deity - there is someone/something to blame. Atheists see no mater plan and accept that death is just part of life, that in a universe which is 13 billion years old that passing this year or next is inconsequential and that biology, physics and probability dictate the eventual demise of everything that lives.

The bottom line is that it appears that a christian has to deal with two simultaneous blows - the passing of a loved one and a crisis of faith while an atheist only has to deal with one.